It’s okay not to be a size 8

Body confidence has always been something I’ve struggled with. I’ve never been truly happy with my body and always find myself picking out everything wrong with it. This year I’ve really tried to change my mentality on how I think about myself. After writing  Tackling Body Confidence at the start of the year I have started to become more confident in myself and learnt to accept who I am.

For as long as I can remember a size 8 was just the size. Ridiculous I know but I was under the impression that anything bigger was unattractive and too big. Being bigger than a size 8 was something that I was actually scared off and realising that I am was something I didn’t want to accept? Trying to squeeze into a size 8 just wasn’t happening anymore.

After realising I’ve worn a size 8 since I started wearing ‘adult’ clothes even though my prepubescent body is not the same as it is today. So why am I still forcing myself to be the same size. My body has changed a lot. I now have some sort of shape, I’m no longer a little skinny 12 year old. Sizing varies a lot from shop to shop and I remember trying on things in a size 8 that wouldn’t fit me. When this happened I was distraught, not being that size made me feel awful about myself, no matter if in the shop before the 8 was too big, not fitting in it would destroy my confidence. As I’ve grown older I’ve understood it’s okay not to be a size 8 and I often find myself buying size 10 clothes with no issue. Yes I know a size 10 isn’t big at all and I can now accept it, but getting out the size 8 is a must phase has been so beneficial. Quite often I now find myself reaching for a size 10 first, something I would be so embarrassed of a year ago. I look back and think why? My body is healthy and it’s ok being the size I am.

To me society has deemed size 8 to be the size we all want to be. We all strive for this no matter what shape we are. Bodies are all different and some of us naturally will never be able to fit in that size. Being a size 10, 12, 14 does not make anyone big at all. Some of us naturally have bigger hips or assists making it nearly impossible to fit in a size 8. You could be at fitness peak and still not be a size 8. The thing is it doesn’t matter what size you are, as long as you are happy with the body you have.

A simple size holds absolutely no worth and basing yourself off it is ridiculous. Your size shouldn’t and doesn’t matter. As a society we need to change how we think and what we portray. A size 8 isn’t everything!

H xxx


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  1. I actually just posted something body-related and why I’m coming to terms that I didn’t reach my ideal weight for my wedding. I’ve been a size 8/10/12/14 (for US sizes that’s 4/6/8/10), and I would get so down on myself for not being the UK 4/6 (US 0/2). I’m so thankful for the body positive movement of the 2010s. All the times I was at my skinniest, I was either exercising way too much and not eating enough to restrict myself, or I had a bad lupus flareup, lost my appetite and would get hospitalized.


  2. Such a true and refreshing post to read, size is no more than a number! I have times and different clothing brands where I find myself a size 8 or a XS and times when a M or 10 fits so much better! We really shouldn’t value ourselves or judge our health based on a piece of material xo

  3. I have been a size 8 for soooooo many years and over the last 3/4 years, I noticed my clothes don’t fit as well as they used too. I was determined to loose weight but then I realized – I’m quite tall and being a size 8 meant I looked like a child and I’m a woman! So I’ve accepted as long as I’m healthy I will let my body have whatever shape it decides. Plus I looked so much worse squeezing my butt into a size 8 than if I had just worn a bigger size lol 😉

    1. I’m so glad you’re accepting that it’s better the where a size up. That’s exactly what I did, squeezing myself into my clothes did not do me any favors!

  4. Just what I needed to read before I go on holiday and brave bikini. I’m also trying to change the way I see myself, it’s been a slow but good journey xx

  5. I definitely struggled with this for quite a while too, especially because I am small so to me being a size 10 was HUGE! Even though I know it really wasn’t/isn’t! I made myself miserable at the gym hoping for an unrealistic number to pop up on the scales and if I could go back I’d tell myself just to enjoy being able to move my body!


  6. I love this post. It’s a great message that needs to be said. I’m a size 10/12 on the bottom because I have bigger hips and I always felt that I was to big when really it’s just my body shape. This post is so incredible and I agree with everything you said. Thank you xxx

  7. I totally agree with you. I learn to accept being a different size to what you want or to your friends is perfectly OK and besides the different sizes you can fit into in different stores can be off putting but I have embraced it.

  8. I’m so pleased you are doing better and feeling positive about yourself. I’ve had a similar thing where I’d always been a 10 on the bottom and 12 on top but lately I’ve been much happier to try on a 14 or 16 or even reach for it first in certain shops.

    You’re right that a size 10 isn’t big but also there is nothing wrong with being big. We live in a society where being big seems to be seen as a heinous crime when really it’s just living in a larger body.

    1. I agree with everything you just said and I’m so glad you are comfortable with yourself! Any size is beautiful but from the world around me I’ve tried to be one size for so long! It’s great to see so many of moving out of that mind set!

  9. This is so inspiring! I can completely relate to you on this, body confidence is something I have always struggled with! This has really made me see the positive side, this year I have realised no matter what size anyone is, everyone has their own special qualitys and are beautiful in their own way!x

  10. Great post!! I was always a size 10/12 and then my boobs came alone and I had to start buying size 14 to be comfy and I felt like I was huge. It really got me down and only now am I totally accepting myself and feeling comfy again! I’m in such a better place now I am happy in my skin!

  11. I love this post! I can totally relate to it at the moment. I know my hips aren’t a size 6-8 but for some reason I still want to try the skirt or jeans on each time when I know it won’t fit! xx

  12. Das my girl! Harriet, you seriously never fail to to keep up all the good work. Honestly, this is such an amazing post girl, wow I have so, so much respect for you and think that you are absolutely stunning and amazing the way you are and to see you finally feel confidence, makes me confident too in myself. Thank you sis! xx

  13. I. Love. This. Post. Girl I understand where you are coming from after hitting 14 I went from a small thin size 6 to a 10/12 and getting used to that was hard, just like you said anything above an 8 felt massive but then you grow up and realise there are so many different shapes and sizes of bodies and they’re all beautiful, just like you x

    1. Thank you 🙂 It’s hard to change the mentality that it’s okay to be bigger but getting there is the best! Xx

  14. What a wonderful post! I myself am recovering from anorexia and learning to love my size 10/12 (depending on shops) has been tough to accept. Now I realise I wasn’t ment to be a size 6 and that being back at a size 10/12 is not ‘fat’ and that infact I have a womanly body again and have shape. I love posts like this as it reminds me once again the size I am is normal.
    Becca //

    1. Thanks for your lovely comment. I’m glad you’re recovering well! Exactly, the size is far from fat and it’s just realising that we have a shape!

  15. As someone who has struggled with her weight and the issues with size, food, how I look etc, this really spoke to me. Very well said! You look gorgeous, and that’s something that, as cliche as it sounds, does come from the inside too. Love this post, you should be proud to be overcoming the size 8 trap and to start loving who you are whatever the label of the clothing you buy! x

  16. I love this post as I have felt this way for a while, I’m a size 10 too and desperately wanted to be a size 6 but I’ve realised my body wasn’t made for that size. This is so inspirational!

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