Why you should stop giving a fuck

One of my biggest weaknesses is that I care. And I know I care far too much.

I feel like every time I write a post I always want a start with an apology. My blogging game has seriously dropped and I’m posting so much less than I did before. When I first started writing I threw everything into it. I had so much I wanted to share and I was so excited about sharing it. Now don’t get me wrong I still have that same love for sharing but I just found myself repeating ideas over and over without any fresh creativity. I guess you could say I feel into a rather long ‘blogging slump’.

However in the last few months a lot of changes has happened in my life. I’m now a lot busier and I do struggle to actually sit down and give myself some spare time to write. The thing is this is ok, I see a lot of us feeling a lil guilty for neglecting our blog but it happens. Things change and we change, and a lot of us forget our lives don’t revolve around our blog and social media presence.

I am so heavily influenced by what others think of me. As much as I like to act as if I am care free I hate people having a negative view of me. As let’s face it I am a massive people pleaser.

Friendships come and go, and if you know me you’ll know me you’ll know I’ve had my fair share of fall outs. Now this doesn’t reflect me as a person (well I hope not, I mean I’m not too bad to get along with right???) I just started to learn to stop caring about seeking their approval.  A little throwback to my younger teenage years where I was in a group that really influenced me. I was influenced about how to spend my free time, to what to wear and even what to eat. Diet culture was thrown on to me, with all of us trying to eat healthy and lose weight. I started to become unhappy with myself, not because I hated my body initially, but as everyone else moaned about theirs I started to influence how I felt about mine.

Caring about fitting in and how my friends saw me became something I was invested in, 5 years on and I’m getting to the stage where I don’t really care anymore. If you feel you need to impress or change around people then stop. You don’t. After losing friends I soon started to realise I didn’t really care. If people want to be in your life then they will. If they bring negativity then honestly leave them.

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ps I am completely living for this coat right now 

When you stop giving a fuck with what others think, your confidence will boom. We all know there’s always someone ‘better’. Someone else with that fancy house, fast car, great job. You name it they always have it better than you. The minute you stop reaching for someone else and start to focus on yourself is when it all changes. Sure we all have dreams but it’s time to follow ours instead of strive for someone else’s.

Focusing on yourself should become a priority, caring about others becomes pointless. Do things because you want them and realise it’s okay to be yourself.

H xxx

 

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6 Comments

  1. I’m so happy to see you back! it’s been a long while since you’ve posted (which you mentioned), but I’m glad to see that you’re back and feeling refreshed. You are so right, I was constantly worried about what others thought of me, that I struggled internally loads. I feel it’s just something you learn with time, you know? Can’t wait to see what else you come up with ! xxx

    Melina | http://www.ivefoundwaldo.com

  2. It’s like you’ve actually taken thoughts out of my mind!! I am sooooo over giving a fuck what people think about me, it has controlled me for way to long! 2018 is 100% all about doing whatever I like, only to please myself

    Abi | abistreetx

  3. Love this! There are some great books about the power of not giving a f*ck and actually I think that for many of us, you and I included, caring a little less would be a much healthier, more positive thing. Caring too much about what others think, overthinking and overstressing etc are exhausting and life-crushing. There’s definitely something to be said for the power of giving less f***s! 🙂 Great post xx

  4. Definitely needed a positive post like this to read before I sleep! ✨

    You don’t need to post to please anyone, your posts now are amazing so just do them whenever you can, there’s no pressure!🙌🏼

  5. Right on spot that putting yourself first takes out the need to care or be concerned about what others think. Save your time and energy for doing things important to you, somedays that is all the energy I have So why waste it on others?

  6. Side note, that coat is to die for!
    I love all of your posts but ones like this totally resonate with me. Definitely feel that as I have got older, I have begun to give less of a fuck about what others think and just be happy! Much better that way 🙂

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