Losing someone you love is tough, trust me being dumped isn’t fun. Although the majority of the time I’m upbeat and happy a break up really effects me. Having that person in your life for so long for them just to go is hard. Having comfort in them, knowing they are there any time you need just to make you feel better. Adjusting to when they are gone is a huge change. I rely on others to help me deal with my emotions, and when they are gone I suddenly realise how fragile I am. Being by yourself is a scary thought. Something I truly have been terrified of. This shouldn’t be the case and suddenly forgotten what my own company is like or how to cheer myself up.
As much as breakups suck, learning about yourself again is so important. Getting back onto your feet and having that feeling of individual strength. Now I know you might be far of and everything seems impossible, but this is what this times for. Instead of focusing your attention on someone else, it’s now time to be so dam selfish and put yourself first. Regrowing as a person and realising you don’t need them anymore is the best feeling. Of course they are still there in the back of your head, but you can be happy without them and don’t need them to signify your strength.
I know, it’s so hard. So many people feel safe and secure in a relationship, being alone can be strange. But what is sitting around feeling sorry for yourself about it going to do? Nothing. Don’t let it drag you down as you’re only going to feel worse. Stay busy and stay happy. Start doing more of what you love, whether that is reading, drawing, running or watching TV. If it makes you happy then do it.
The best bonus about a break up is the money saved. Think about it. No more travel expense, no more meals out, or day trips, no more presents. Just think about all that money you could save! And you know what, that thing you’ve been having your eye on for the last few months, go on treat yourself girl. There’s no longer anything to hold you back, girl you do whatever the hell you want now. Have fun, let yourself loose and enjoy life.
As cringey as it is, I’m a strong believer in everything happens for a reason. As as you feel incomplete without them. You were not meant to be and you’re one step closer to finding the one. A little bit soppy I know, but I love the thought of love and marriage. I definitely believe there is someone out there perfect for everyone. If this time didn’t work out, who knows what along the corner or where life will take you. Don’t give up because everything doesn’t go your way.
Learning to love yourself is tough, especially when there’s no one else to show you how. It can be a long process but once you get there you will never look back. Self love is the only love you need.
If you know me, you know I keep these stupid jars full of amazing memories each year. As it stands 2017 is empty just waiting to be full of adventures. Right now I am in control and I can make these memories as I please. Being single is great I can do anything I want, not that a relationship stops you but being single gives you so much more personal time. And I sure am going to make the most of it.
Confidence in my eye is someones best trait, don’t get me wrong I can’t stand cocky people but there’s nothing wrong with being happy in yourself. For so long I’ve been so negative on my body image, fashion and just everything about me. Being single is (hopefully) going to allow me to develop as a person. I’m 18 still got a lot of life ahead of me, I want to explore the world and grow my confidence by myself. Instead of relying on someone else to lift my spirits I am now going to take responsibility for myself. I am in charge of my own happiness and I’m going to make sure my life is fab.
As much I feel I have rambled on, I do hope people enjoy and find positivity in this post. If it didn’t help anyone else, it doesnt matter. I sure got a a weight of my chest and feel positive for letting everything out and telling myself I will be happy.